The Drive to Unify

Your desire to join with others is an existential fact. 

However, the ego-self works on a conscious level and although it senses this deeper desire, it must resist. To know that your ONLY purpose is to join with others is very frightening to an ego obsessed with itself (and an ego does not exist except through such an obsession).

But then... what other purpose could there be?

Change is an aspect of the conscious mind, while the subconscious has never changed and the desire to ‘join’ has never left you. (we call it "subconscious" simply because you don't consciously THINK of it) To relate to others from Deep Spirit is to engage from the unchanged subconscious, absent the chaotic egocentric conditions.

To engage others from Deep Spirit is to be absent fear and to be absent fear is to dissolve all conditions you impose on others, simply because imposing conditions is a fear response.

This will be an incredibly lucid experience for you and those you engage with because it will not seem as though either of you are cause of what each other experiences, but it will naturally draw you together.

It is an experience of unity, not available to individual minds obsessed with egocentric inequality leading to control dynamics. It is an experience that dissolves all opposition into non-dual equality.

This experience can be cultivated between two or more who are prepared to ignore conscious demands and engage from subconscious truth. However, no ‘individual’ can plan or prepare for it in any way, as this would only insure that individual conditions/limits be superimposed upon experience from egocentric beliefs.

The "Non-dualists"demand that, although the 'self' was NOT constructed in isolation from others, you must deconstruct it on your own. Conscious egocentricity fears joining except between bodies, because that can be controlled (sex). Subconscious impulses cannot be accessed by individuals because subconscious unity is not under any single individual’s control. But two or more have the potential to tap this unchanged and unchanging depth of information.

You have experienced this before. There have been moments in the past in which you have ignored conscious material and engaged another purely from the subconscious impulse to join. Unfortunately, this moment was brief as egocentric control needs quickly impeded any deeper impulses.

This is the experience that many spiritual/religious ideologies refer to as "enlightenment" or "awakening," but which has been stripped of its essence and made to conform to egocentric dictates that demand isolated individual experiences all conforming to the chaotic dictates of egocentric demands.

There are individuals who recount experiences (often referred to as “enlightenment” or “awakening”) in which the ego suddenly encounters the subconscious drive to engage deeply and join with others. However, this is immediately interpreted by egocentricity to conform to individual dictates and conditions. Although remnants and residue from such experiences tends to cling, the experience can only fade as all 'individual' experiences must.

Truth was never meant for individuals because individuality is a lie (note the discomfort in the ego as you read that). This is not to mean that your individuality should be discarded, but it is to affirm that it should be SHARED. Individuality has no other point than to be shared and shared without limit, because such sharing has no limits and is infinite. There are NO limits to what experiences can be shared through ‘relationship,' in realizing relationship is the only experience you're 'here' to share...

…but “you” have made sharing very limited indeed.